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Marriage - Y U NO MAKE SENSE TO ME?!

Today's topic is a little personal.

Marriage... it's a mixed, twisted and perplexing affair if you live in an Indian family. If you've reach the age where your family and relatives start to pester you about marriage, then you know the mental torture that precedes it. If your parents are the pro active type and start looking for a bride or groom, then ironically, you'll be the last to know about it. Why do they do that?

The most awkward and embarrassing situation is being in a family dinner(out with relatives) or visit and having one of your parents bring up the subject of marriage only to completely catch you off guard. You what? but why? The conversation then just falls silent and then someone courteously tries to offer some advice to you. I appreciate their concern but I'm quite happy the way I am.

This may sound weird, but I have always found marriage to be a rather ludicrous precept(I know I'm about to cause some divisions here with my friends, but hey, I wouldn't be myself if I kept an opinion to myself just for the sake of not hurting people's feelings). I mean think about it, why would you need to declare your marriage, register it and make it known to the world? Firstly, I am against the idea that the state has to 'bless' the marriage as a sort of 'big brother' now recognises you're new status. Why is marriage something the state want to get involved in?

Okay I'm not so naive, I know the reason but should something as personal as two people getting together and living together as a couple something the state has to bloody put it's grubby little finger in? Why can't it be a personal choice, without all the rubbish registration process and formality of a rather fake procession.

And then there is the grandiose wedding with pomp and spectacle. I often wondered the motivation for such grand weddings. Sure, we've been indoctrinated from childhood of the 'fairytale wedding'. Reality is a lot more humbling than fantasy. Is it as a prove of our undying love for our partner; which in this case I think is rather shallow. I mean if we're honest about our love being all encompassing, would we really need to prove it to your lover in such a bombastic manner?

Or maybe it's more of a spectacle for the relatives and friends as in, look at this, ain't this awesome? To which I say... who cares? Seriously though, there is no point in flaunting it. Maybe some people find some satisfaction in that, but it's certainly not for me. I'd just live with the person that I love. There is no need to prove my love and announce it to the world... certainly not to the government. My love is prove enough. It is ever lasting. It would be my universe.

Until then... I'll just be single.

Comments

  1. I think the state should be notified of marriages because of issues with inheritance and so on. not many people leave wills.

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  2. I don't see how a will could not be written separate from marriage registrations. I mean some people are single and they can still have a will. But yes, in absence of a will a marriage certificate could be produced in a court of law to settle such cases, but I still don't see it as a solution.

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